For those of you that that live and work in New York, you probably take the subway to get around. You probably know the stress of train delays when you have an important meeting to get to, or when you’re tired after a long day and you just want to sit in peace until your stop comes…and a stranger starts up a conversation - a random one with a subject you couldn’t care less about.
“Ugh
what do you want?” I thought when a woman started talking to me on the train to
Penn Station. I really was not in the mood to talk; I simply wanted to listen
to music on my phone and stare out the window until I had to rush out of the
station and get to a meeting. But of course, some people don’t get the message
that you are listening to music, and they take the opportunity to inundate you
with things that you don’t care about. I mean come on, when I’m listening to
Maroon 5, I will not want to talk to you while trying to listen to Adam
Levine’s voice.
It’s
ironic because as I was sitting on the train nodding my head at this person
that I didn’t know, trying to look like I was engaged in whatever she was
saying, I thought about the play I had read from the night before – Express Train. Michael
Selditch portrays that well-known moment of when some stranger
strikes up a conversation with you on a train. Hal innocently starts talking to
Bob, who clearly wants nothing to do with holding a conversation at 2:00 am on
a subway. Then slowly, both men begin to unravel their personal lives and
feelings as the train constantly stops from obnoxious railway problems.
You
will never know how much you can actually reveal about yourself to a complete
stranger. I can say so myself because after I got past being annoyed with this
woman who was talking to me, I made an effort to be nice, which lead me to
genuinely listen to what she was saying. I could have easily pretended to take
a phone call to avoid talking to her…unless the phone rang during my “phone
call.” That would have been a bummer. But once I saw that she wasn’t going to
shut up, I just went along with the conversation, which although it was weird,
I knew that I couldn’t just rudely dismiss her for innocently making
conversation. It was weird because of the topic she brought up: marriage and
how “women need to find the right men;” clearly she needed to get something personal
off her chest by giving some kid advice.
In
Express Train, Hal isn’t looking to
give advice; he just seems like he needs to get something off his chest, which
happens to involve an ex-fiancĂ©e. This is what Selditch wanted to show – how
people simply need to get something off their chests. Sometimes talking to
someone outside of your own personal realm can actually fulfill you; you’ll
feel better about telling a stranger something that you possibly can’t tell
anyone else in your life; it feels better since you probably will never see
that person again. That explains why the woman decided to talk to me about how
meeting the wrong man is life-ruining. I
now understand why she found me to give unexpected advice to. I was right
across from her, so why not start a conversation about something that was
obviously bothering her by masking that problem with advice?
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